There is a huge misconnection between how people are choosing to lose weight and how their body actually works for weight loss, and this shows through the fact that 98% of people who lose weight put it all back on again, often plus more - so only 2% have figured out how to do it successfully. Here’s what I want you to know.
The most important factor to always understand if you want to lose weight is that the mind and the body MUST work together constantly throughout every step of your journey. Why? Because what the mind believes, the body must action. Every single thought and every single belief you think in your mind is sent to every cell within your body telling it to respond accordingly. Quite literally, what you believe, you become. Science is now showing more accurately this intrinsic link between the mind and the body, and that your body only ever works as a response of the mind. Before you begin any attempt at weight loss, you must get your mindset right so that your body can respond to what your mind is saying. There is one opposite that occurs in nearly every decision we make in life and that is making the choice between fear and love. The opposite of fear is love, and the opposite of love is fear. If we fear something then we don’t love it, if we love it then we don’t fear it. In people who believe they are overweight their mind set is always one of fear, not love. They do not love themselves, they fear themselves. Some people dislike themselves, some people just dislike certain aspects of their body’s, and then others live consumed by their insecurities. The beliefs you have about your body and your reasons for wanting to lose weight ultimately make up the success of whether you achieve long term weight loss or not. Fear presents itself in the body in the form of insecurities. Whether you believe you aren’t good enough the way you are, whether you don’t love yourself, don’t feel worthy of being loved, or hate parts about your body and the way you look – these are all insecurities you have about your body, and they are all a pure form of fear. You are living afraid that you aren’t good enough the way you are, and your reasons for wanting to lose weight are to improve yourself, make yourself better, make yourself right. When we live in fear of ourselves it shows through self-destructive behaviours and a lack of motivation to look after your body. Why? Because what your mind thinks, your body must action. If you believe you too fat, unattractive or not good enough, then your body actions those beliefs and it does it by self-destruction to ensure your body matches your mind-set and remains ‘fat, unattractive and not good enough’, in your opinion. When your reasons for self-dislike come from body image, then that is the very thing you will sabotage – your body image. Your body will never succeed at doing anything that doesn’t match what your mind is saying. When people first set out on a mission to lose weight, they use share willpower and motivation. This may work initially as you are fighting your internal beliefs with one mind set saying ‘I must exercise, I must diet’. It may work long enough to allow you to lose some weight, other times you may just not have the strength to fight for long enough to see any change on the scales. Regardless, unless you change those deeply ingrained beliefs about poor self-love and feelings of not being good enough, you will not maintain the weight loss or have the motivation long enough to do what’s needed. The weight will just come back, and keep coming back until you learn to love yourself and feel worthy of loving yourself. If you don’t, you will continue a pattern of contradiction between your body and your mind – your mind says one thing but you are trying to get your body to respond in a different way. It’s not possible. When people think they just need a little more motivation and will power to be ‘good’ at eating and exercising, you are simply asking your body to perform against what your mind is dictating your body to do. You will never be able to succeed with that, your body is only a response of your mind, so you will never have the motivation and willpower to work against your mind for a long enough period of time. Eventually you will have to give up that fight. Unfortunately many people seem to have made this big connection between size and worthiness – if you are overweight then by default you become not good enough, not okay, unattractive or wrong. This mind-set is what is keeping nearly every overweight person living in fear of themselves and their body’s. But there is no connection, if you wish to let go of the need to hold on to body fat, then you must let this mind-set go. Weight has no effect on the value of a person. Punishing and hating yourself to lose weight and thinking you will be a better person when you’re skinny is an extremely unsuccessful way to lose weight. But instead if you flip your mind-set, so instead of wanting to lose weight out of fear, you do it out of love then the entire mind flips its perspective. It becomes love-based rather than fear-based. When you love yourself your body will respond to those thoughts and beliefs. If everything you do is from a place of self-love then they are the messages you are sending your body. Our body’s love healthy foods, they love regular activity, they love being looked after, so if you are in a place of self-love, or at-least choosing to do things from a place of self-love, then your body will want to do the things that make it feel good – eat healthy, exercise well, and look after itself. These are the signals your mind sends your body, and your body will respond without you having to fight to find motivation. Remember, the body only actions what the mind believes – believe you are worthy, good enough, and beautiful the way you are, and your body will work overtime to ensure your body matches your beliefs. Work with the mind and it will be so much easier. If you work against it, it will become a battle too hard. I have specifically created a 28 Day Self Love Journal for this exact reason – to help people just like you begin the process of loving and accepting themselves. These journals have five daily steps and are the exact process I used every day to learn to love and accept myself. If you are wanting to lose weight, please be kind and compassionate to yourself and begin the process by building the foundation of your self-esteem and self-worth first. If you would like one of your own journals to help you begin this process, you can grab these off my website by clicking here. Because you are worth it! Kerri x
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